I tend to think too much. I would suffer from insomnia if I didn't find a way to distract my mind from thinking every night. The greatest thing that I have found to keep my mind occupied so that it will actually let me fall asleep is audio commentary tracks on DVDs. I've been playing the same one every night now for the last three weeks or so. If I would lay in bed in utter silence, I'd be awake until morning. I opened this post in this manner to explain how I started thinking about what I'm going to discuss here. Now on to the meat of the issue.
Ever since I've become a tank, I have noticed something different about playing
WoW. It was sometimes difficult to notice, but it was always there. And I believe this
thing is responsible for a great many different behaviors in the game. Explaining this isn't going to be easy, since I'm in no capacity a psychologist, but I'll try my best.
I'm going to focus first on something I call the "Tank-Healer Relationship", but I'll spend a little bit of time on other things later.
Given enough play time together, a tank and a healer will develop some sort of bond between the two of them. I know this bond exists, as I have experienced it many times. Most of the time, it's left unspoken, but it's there. It will also differ depending on the individuals, be weaker or stronger, etc. Sometimes it will be one-sided. I'm not the only one who has noticed it -- do a Google search on "Tank Healer Relationship", and you will find several articles and blog posts of people describing this very thing. And most of the time, they call it "unexplainable".
It's not unexplainable, it's just very
psychological, and I think that people have a difficult time believing that such a deep human
intricacy can form out of playing a simple video game with someone else. I'm starting with the T-H relationship because the nature of it creates the most powerful of bonds between any other players in the game.
Why? It's really quite simple. It delves back to the most simplistic (and sadly, most stereotypical) roles of human beings. The bond is at its most powerful when the healer is a female, and the tank is a male. The reason for this is because (and again, I know this is stereotypical), the female is the nurturer, and the male is the protector. And the two of them performing those very actions within the game creates a very intimate bond between them. Now obviously, there are other situations where this bond would be equally as powerful. For example, if the tank happens to be gay, and his healer is a male, then the bond would be just as strong for him. (Though not so much for the healer, unless he were also gay, of course.) Additionally, I sometimes wonder how it feels for a married couple to be in a T-H relationship as well, especially if they reverse the roles.
In other situations, the bond is less powerful, but still existent. And as I've said, I've experienced it myself, and it makes me wonder. Some of my closest friends in
WoW are my healers. There's Aaron (
Roskilde), Brad (
Biza), Steve (
Klik). These are some of the people that I talk to the most within the game. I've met all of them in real life. We've been together for quite some time now. And I can't help but think this is partly due to that bond that exists between a tank and his healers. I'm not saying that we wouldn't be friends if I wasn't the tank and they weren't the healers, but I do think that our relationships would be just a little bit different if that were the case.
I also think this bond creates some of the more common emotional reactions that you see in the game. For example, a very common negative trait of a tank is an over-inflated ego. I believe this happens because of two things. One, because they are
everyone's protector and subconsciously feel they deserve special treatment. Two, because they get so much attention from the healers and it begins to effect them negatively. People who act like this lack the psychological maturity to understand the feelings they are experiencing with these bonds that form in the game. And they react negatively to them.
A better and positive example is closer to my own feelings, though I will admit that sometimes I do let my ego show. A more positive trait of a tank is that of a leader, and someone who's mantra is "
My friends are my weapons and I am their shield." That's the mentality I have when I go into any situation in the game -- that my job is to keep everyone safe so they can do what they need to do to get the job done. A lot of trust is involved within these bonds. This is why I tend to get irritated when someone pulls aggro, or when the off-tank is taking my targets. It's not because I'm a control freak, but rather because I feel that in some way I am letting everyone down.
I should also add that I think the obviousness of the healer's importance to the tank is much stronger than the tank's importance to the healer. The tank sees his health going down, and then sees it going back up with the name of the person healing him scrolling along his combat text. It's clear and apparent who is paying attention to him, and who is keeping him alive. However, it's only clear and present how much the tank is keeping the healer alive when the tank dies, and the boss turns around and one-shots the healer. For this reason, I think the nature of the bond is much stronger for the tank than it is for the healer. Of course, I really can't say this with 100% certainty, as I have never played a healing character in the game.
There are two main problems that this causes. One, a tank may start to feel as though he's under-appreciated or taken for granted. Two, a healer may start to feel useless or unimportant if they aren't assigned
their tank to heal, or someone else is filling up that health bar before they do.
Speaking from personal experience, I also think the existence of this bond has helped change people's certain opinions of me. Since I am also the Guild Master of our guild, it's quite easy for people to simply assume that I'm "elitist". The topic has come up a number of times, and is mostly
misconstrued. I do believe, before we started raiding in
WotLK, that a few of our new healers had that opinion of me. And I saw that opinion disappear as they raided with us, because they are now able to talk to me freely and are comfortable enough to even fool around with me during raids. And I believe it's mostly, if not totally, due to the T-H relationship.
"So what does it all mean,
Sab?"
Mostly, I'm writing about this just because it was something on my mind and I wanted to solidify it into words. I'm thinking that most people who read this will go, "
Hmm, yeah, I have noticed that but never really gave it much thought." That's really all I was going for, here.
To expand it a bit further, I think that sometimes the DPS will have a bond with the tank as well, although it is much weaker and rarer. DPS is mostly focused on staring at their DPS charts. But sometimes I think they do develop a bond with the tank, and see him as their protector, their leader, or just the guy who always seems to know what to do. Referencing back to my
Thaddius story in the previous post, I think that is the perfect example of where I probably directly affected that bond with any of the DPS who might notice it. I changed our strategy, successfully, and it was incredibly
obvious how much better it was. That probably affected, and strengthened, the bond.
Interestingly enough, the T-H relationship can affect the entire raid. If it's a good relationship, both of them will perform better and the raid will be more successful. If the relationship is strained, or if they hate each other, then the raid is probably going to suck. Right now, I feel I have an excellent relationship with all the healers in our guild. And you will notice that we've been basically kicking ass the last few weeks. I don't see that as a coincidence.
Harking back to Black Temple, there was a rather bad situation going on near the end of our raiding days, and one of our healers was directly involved. Even though the situation was MOSTLY between just him and I, it affected everyone. I hated this game during that time, and I also don't view it as a coincidence that our raiding days were over shortly after that situation occurred.
So there you have it, a big random chunk of what goes on in my mind when I let it wander too far away.